Arranging a Funeral in Farlington Parish
Thank you for welcoming us so warmly at St Andrew's, and for guiding us through the service with such care and understanding. You have helped to make [deceased's] Memorial Service especially meaningful. Thank You.
Family members 2023.
A funeral for everyone . . .
Did you know that the Church of England offers to provide a funeral service for everyone who lives in the parish? Yes that's whether you (or your relative who has died) reckon you believe or not, never come to our churches, come occasionally or are a regular. It's all part of our calling and task, as the 'State'(or established) church to be the church for all people whether they count themselves as members or not.
So if you would like to mark the death of your loved one and celebrate their life in a service in one of our churches, it would be our privilege to arrange it with you and conduct it. Ask your funeral director to contact us - or you can speak to the Rector, Paul Gully here or on 023 9237 5145.
Even with a longer service time, and with our very best efforts, a service at a Crematorium can feel a little hurried. Having a service in church first can offer much more flexibility of time.
Did you know that the Church of England offers to provide a funeral service for everyone who lives in the parish? Yes that's whether you (or your relative who has died) reckon you believe or not, never come to our churches, come occasionally or are a regular. It's all part of our calling and task, as the 'State'(or established) church to be the church for all people whether they count themselves as members or not.
So if you would like to mark the death of your loved one and celebrate their life in a service in one of our churches, it would be our privilege to arrange it with you and conduct it. Ask your funeral director to contact us - or you can speak to the Rector, Paul Gully here or on 023 9237 5145.
Even with a longer service time, and with our very best efforts, a service at a Crematorium can feel a little hurried. Having a service in church first can offer much more flexibility of time.
Thank You for presenting such a wonderful service for my Dad . . . It was so peaceful and respectful. I'm sure Dad wholly approved of it.
Family Member 2021
How about at the Crematorium or Cemetery?
If you are planning to hold a service at a cemetery chapel or crematorium there are many options available to you about who you could ask to conduct the service or ceremony. However if on this important occasions in your family life you wish to have the service conducted by a member of the Church of England clergy or one of our Licenced Lay Ministers we do conduct those services too, and would count it as a privilege. Just remember, if a funeral director asks if you are 'religious' saying 'no' doesn't stop you having a funeral with us. Again, ask your funeral director to contact us - or you can speak to the Rector, Paul Gully.
If you are planning to hold a service at a cemetery chapel or crematorium there are many options available to you about who you could ask to conduct the service or ceremony. However if on this important occasions in your family life you wish to have the service conducted by a member of the Church of England clergy or one of our Licenced Lay Ministers we do conduct those services too, and would count it as a privilege. Just remember, if a funeral director asks if you are 'religious' saying 'no' doesn't stop you having a funeral with us. Again, ask your funeral director to contact us - or you can speak to the Rector, Paul Gully.
Thanks . . .
I’m writing to thank you very much indeed for the kind and sensitive way in which you conducted my mother’s funeral service. I’m writing on my sister’s behalf too and she was very pleased and grateful also for the preliminary interview you had with her. As ill health prevented me attending the funeral, I watched the live streaming online, so I’m fully aware that we owe you a debt of gratitude for your participation, especially, for example, your delivery of the eulogy.
Family Member 2018
I’m writing to thank you very much indeed for the kind and sensitive way in which you conducted my mother’s funeral service. I’m writing on my sister’s behalf too and she was very pleased and grateful also for the preliminary interview you had with her. As ill health prevented me attending the funeral, I watched the live streaming online, so I’m fully aware that we owe you a debt of gratitude for your participation, especially, for example, your delivery of the eulogy.
Family Member 2018
Won't the Rector tell us what we have to include . . .?
Some people will tell you that all Church of England funerals have to be the same, or the Vicar will tell you what you have to have. There are some common elements - like a Bible reading and prayers, but there is also room for a service to contain elements which are personal to the family and their deceased relative. We would be happy to sit with you and your family members and talk about ways we might make this service a fitting tribute.
As well as providing the location and/or the people to conduct the service we can provide a fitting place to bury your relative's cremated remains. There is a Garden of Remembrance in St Andrew's Churchyard. Ask us for details.
The rest of the churchyard at St Andrew's is full and there is no space for new graves. (The technical name for this is a 'closed' graveyard.) However if there is space in a family grave it may be possible to bury family members there. Again, ask us.
And . because we are local, we are still here after the funeral service is over. If you think we can help, we would like to offer our on-going support. While this is on offer for any member of the family, it may be particularly reassuring where a family member lives locally and the rest of the family live at a distance.
Some people will tell you that all Church of England funerals have to be the same, or the Vicar will tell you what you have to have. There are some common elements - like a Bible reading and prayers, but there is also room for a service to contain elements which are personal to the family and their deceased relative. We would be happy to sit with you and your family members and talk about ways we might make this service a fitting tribute.
As well as providing the location and/or the people to conduct the service we can provide a fitting place to bury your relative's cremated remains. There is a Garden of Remembrance in St Andrew's Churchyard. Ask us for details.
The rest of the churchyard at St Andrew's is full and there is no space for new graves. (The technical name for this is a 'closed' graveyard.) However if there is space in a family grave it may be possible to bury family members there. Again, ask us.
And . because we are local, we are still here after the funeral service is over. If you think we can help, we would like to offer our on-going support. While this is on offer for any member of the family, it may be particularly reassuring where a family member lives locally and the rest of the family live at a distance.
Don't need our funeral services yet?
What about discussing your funeral wishes with us? We would be happy to sit and talk with you. Some people may see this as 'morbid' or 'tempting fate'. We prefer to see it as giving your family the opportunity of knowing that they are carrying out your wishes and removing from them the worry about getting it wrong. And it's free. Contact the Rector here
How about some prompts to get you thinking?
You may find the document below useful as a prompt to help you plan and communicate your choices to others.
What about discussing your funeral wishes with us? We would be happy to sit and talk with you. Some people may see this as 'morbid' or 'tempting fate'. We prefer to see it as giving your family the opportunity of knowing that they are carrying out your wishes and removing from them the worry about getting it wrong. And it's free. Contact the Rector here
How about some prompts to get you thinking?
You may find the document below useful as a prompt to help you plan and communicate your choices to others.
My Wishes on my Death | |
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Thanks . . .
Last week you conducted a funeral service for [a baby]. I'd just like to say a massive thank you for allowing us to have it at your church and the way you carried it out. It was every thing we hoped for.
Family Member 2015
Last week you conducted a funeral service for [a baby]. I'd just like to say a massive thank you for allowing us to have it at your church and the way you carried it out. It was every thing we hoped for.
Family Member 2015
Funeral Fees 2024 - usually paid to funeral director and identified as Disbursements | |
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